Some of my realizations that I want to share:
1) Take a stand for a just and fair system. Voice out what you think is right. Yet there is a proper place, time and medium for voicing out sentiments. I admire people being bold and strong in fighting for their rights; but I also dislike the ways of people who just complain and complain in an inappropriate event and place, especially those who do not offer means and strategies for solving the issues. Be responsible for what you say, but also respect the opinion of others. Everyone has different views, understanding each other makes the world better and peaceful.
2) Apologize. Nothing more nothing less. Super feeding your mind with ego is not beneficial.
3) There is no perfectly matured person. But one sign that you are maturing enough, especially in executing conversations and arguments, is you learn how to stop, look and listen. Stop when you know what transpire in the conversations are not anymore healthy. Just look and listen, and do not reply unless the heated debate is over. Do not be so sensitive like onion-skin, learn to take criticisms. No one is excused, no matter what your age, gender or status. Make every conversation as healthy and advantageous to all as possible.
4) One of the greatest treasures of mankind is not money nor fame, but friendship. Pursue to re-establish friendship. Would you sacrifice good memories because of a single misunderstanding? Friends are part of your extended family. Stop planting grief and hatred in your heart and mind – there’s no advantage on this but rather negative effects.
5) Be humble. Humility makes you stronger. Do not overthink what people think of you. You know your worth, you know you are reputable. Actually, showing off makes you more less reputable. Look back to the basics and reflect. Generally, arms race competition is nothing but smoke and chasing after the wind. I am reminded by my favorite verse: Ecclesiastes 1:2.
6) Be thankful… for the blessings, wisdom and knowledge, for friendship, for family, for good work, for the gift of technology such as social networks, for guidance of experienced people, for everything. Help other people, those who are oppressed, deprived, underprivileged and anyone who needs you. And be warned not to make strength the means of hounding people.
7) Last but not the least, and the greatest of all. Learn to love.